On Staying Attached To The WRONG Person [TIT]

You stay attached to the wrong people when you wait for them to change. 

They won’t change for you, they can only
change for themselves, but waiting for someone to change in
order to become the person you think they are or the person
you think they could be is only a waste of time.

You stay attached to the wrong person when you think
there is no one out there better for you. 
When you don’t
believe that you will be able to find someone you can love
just as much who will be able to  give you what you need
without breaking your heart.

You stay attached to the wrong person when you limit
yourself to one place. 
The world is huge, but often, we limit
ourselves to the city we live in or our circle of friends and
that’s how we end up exaggerating our feelings towards
someone because they’re the best we could find in this city
or this group, but there are a lot of people elsewhere who
would be so much better for you. So don’t settle for someone
because of their geographical proximity.

You stay attached to the wrong person when you try to
convince yourself that they’re right for you. 
You hold on to threads of hope that you two belong together, that you both
need each other, that you are the perfect match. These
assumptions are not backed by actions or logical reasons.
They’re all fantasies or maybe your heart tricking you into
believing they’re the one because you desperately want to
prove yourself right and prove that all this is not just a
figment of your imagination.

You stay attached to the wrong person when you continue
to stalk them on social media. 
When you keep following
their updates and their news, when you keep looking at their
pictures and seeing how much fun they’re having without
you. Block them if you must, do anything that stops you
from staying addicted to them when they’re no longer part
of your life.

You stay attached to the wrong person when you lie to
yourself about what you want. When you tell yourself that
you don’t want more, that you’re okay with making all the
moves, that you’re okay with minimal effort and shallow
conversations. When you lie to yourself that you don’t want
dates and butterflies and nights full of romance. When you
settle for hours when you want forever.
You stay attached to the wrong person when they change

everything you knew about love and you still accept it.

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